On a date? Watch your body language

Body language does matter, especially when you are trying to build a new relationship. But how do you get the language right? Read on to find that out…

So you finally got to go on a date with the girl of your dreams or your fantasy dude, now comes the part of the story that gets real. You will actually meet, dine together and possibly dance with him or her too. A good three hours or more of getting to know the person and providing a peek into your own personality. While many a jittery date novice has prepared one-liners and crease-perfect ensembles for the date, they tend to ignore the one aspect of making a first impression, namely body language.

 

Believe it or not, but in any kind of communication, its body language that is mainly at play and this is especially true for situations like interviews where someone is literally sitting in judgment over you. The good part about a date is that in all probability, your date would be nervous too. Still, it's easy to blow it off if you don't pay attention to few basic body signs. It's best to hone one's own body language while being able to read your date's too.

 

Eye contact:
Nothing can be more confusing than shifty eyes. You might not feel confident enough to look your date right into her eyes but she might read it as lack of interest. Steer clear of staring as it can make your date uncomfortable but look into his or her eyes while discussing something or making a point. A confident eye contact is a sign of frankness and sincerity. Also you must know that emotions are best reflected through eyes. Your eyes could well be the windows to your joy, excitement and feelings. So let them do the talking.

 

Fidgeting:
Fidgeting indicates nervous excitement. If your date is constantly fiddling with her jewellery, running his hand through his hair, arranging their dress or seem restless, take it as a positive sign. On your part, best to limit the fidgeting as it could make your date uncomfortable. Again touching can mean many different things. A friendly pat across the table may mean that comfort levels have settled in. But if you feel that your date is still slightly wary, it's best not to indulge in any touching. Also don't lean back in your seat, rather lean slightly onto the table to show your interest. A little bit of nervousness is expected but that does not mean that you turn gauche. Keep the basic manners and codes of civility in your mind.


Body language does matter, especially when you are trying to build a new relationship. But how do you get the language right? Read on to find that out…

Dollops of smiles:
The main difference between a blank face and a smiling one is expression of interest. It shows the other person that you are happy to be in their company. It also generates interest and positive energy in the other person. 

 

Speech vs. silence:
Can you imagine yourself spending your life with someone never speaking? An invigorating conversation can set the tone for future interactions. But let it not be nonsensical chatter. Again participation in a conversation demonstrates interest of dating partners.

 

Signs of disinterest:
It's important to educate yourself on the general signs of disinterest as you might miss these in your date's demeanor and might end up hurting yourself emotionally. Looking away, especially at other people while you are talking, commenting on how good some other person looks, rarely smiling, leaning away from you and crossing arms are all classic signs of disinterest. If this happens at the beginning of the date, it could mean your date is hesitant and unsure but his or her manner should open up later. If it doesn't, it spells trouble.

 

Finally a word of caution- It is not advisable to use just one sign to judge your date's interest. You have to take into account the situation, your date's personality and most importantly your instincts. Yet, these thumb rules should help you gauge the situation, when the signals are confusing and unclear.